It's either that or Stanton is an idiot savant of dating.When it comes to dating, at least among those in their 20s, men really are from Mars and women are from Venus.While most of the single women I know spend their time wishing they had a partner (sometimes to the point of desperate loneliness), the single men I know live for playing the field.He regaled me with amusing stories of how his father, a Ukrainian artist, had given him a unisex name, seemingly the bane of his existence, and how his parents sent him to "work camp" (a. He tells me he tones down his "usual antics" if a girl he likes is around."I know some guys can use their outlandish behaviour to their advantage," he says, "but I am definitely not that guy."Now that I've watched Stanton in action a few times--occasionally leaving with a lady on his arm--I wonder if the no-game assertion actually is his game?
Even guys in serious relationships admit to sometimes wishing they were on their own, free to live the seemingly carefree life of a bachelor. It's easy for us women to write off these bachelors as uncaring, skirt-chasing man-whores, but the truth is we could learn a lot from them.
For instance, we run around town waiting to be approached, but we'd be better off asking our friends' boyfriends to bring their single guys around (men are more likely to date someone with whom they share a friend than they are a complete stranger).
We gals also need to get over our fear of online dating (but beware the virtual dirt bags).
Instead of singing "Someday My Prince Will Come" in the shower, we ladies should be belting out "Girls Just Wanna Have Fun." Why should the guys have all the good times?
THE NO-GAME GAMER"The thesis of my life after 6 p.m.
is to be as ridiculous as possible," says 28-year-old Jamie Stanton (his name has been changed so as not to affect his chances with the ladies) when we sit down to discuss the perils of dating in Calgary. Stanton has a surefire method for determiningwhether your last evening out with a member of the opposite sex was indeed a date.