Sexual issues dating
I am a 40-year old divorcee who’s started to get my life back on track again.I have been seeing this new guy who I met through a common friend.I just began seeing a therapist who diagnosed that I suffer from vaginismus, a kind of female sexual dysfunction issue (pain during intercourse, difficulty with penetration and not lubricating, some anxieties, etc.).This is also what created some problems in my previous marriage and relationships, which was regarded as a minor problem but turns out to be an important one and relates so much to trauma, etc.My question is if things are getting more mutually intimate with this man I am seeing now, should I tell him about my condition? One glance at Wikipedia or and you have a wealth of information that can help you create and maintain a healthy, normal, sexual relationship.Unfortunately, the jury is out as to the ideal treatment – • Fear of losing control • Not trusting one’s partner • Self-consciousness about body image • Misconceptions about sex or unattainable standards for sex from exaggerated sexual materials, such as pornography or abstinence • Fear of vagina not being wide or deep enough / fear of partner’s penis being too large • Undiscovered or denied sexuality (specifically, being asexualor lesbian“The three most common contributing factors to vaginismus are fear of painful sex; the belief that sex is wrong or shameful (often the case with patients who had a strict religious upbringing); and traumatic early childhood experiences (not necessarily sexual in nature).
It affects self-esteem, creates miscommunications, misunderstandings, and sexual repression and awkward situations.I used to think there was something wrong with me but my therapist said that it’s a common problem, mostly psychological and curable. I want to take my time overcoming this problem to be fully ready to have more fulfilling new relationships. You suggested that you suffered from trauma, so hopefully, your therapist is trained to help you work through that. What I can tell you is that – as you probably know – there are plenty of resources for women who have this condition.