I’ve just started dating a man I’ve known for several months. My salary is good but normal for this profession and then with the supplement of my alimony settlement, I’m doing very well. And men who have no money are made to feel inadequate. I never made more than ,000 until I was in my 30’s. However, she, unlike you, Samantha, couldn’t get over the fact that I had no money. And the only way for you to overcome his deep seated insecurity is to be 100% consistent in your messaging to him.
He, on the other hand, is an artist/professional who has a hard time doing the whole "normal" work thing. Just tonight, he asked in a meandering sort of way, why I would want to date such a poor guy like him when I could have a rich man. In 2002, I was answering phones at an online dating company while I put myself through film school…. And since she was 32, independently wealthy, divorced and eager to start a family of her own, she simply couldn’t wait for me to get my career off the ground. I was in no position to provide for her when I could barely support myself. EVENTUALLY, he’ll come to realize that you’re for real; that the bottom isn’t simply going to drop out from under him. If he only has momentary lapses where he confesses his insecurity, that’s cool.
Especially If they complain of their benefits, when you just lost yours due to monetary problems. Poorer people have this grit, that rich people don't have. And many rich people are kind and poor people evil. But comfort breeds certain things, being spoiled or utilitarian is a choice.
Rich girls some of them are well educated, use their tuition well. Like being unable to go to the school they want, to get the food they love, they appreciate, and toil more. Being in hardship breeds certain things, to strive or depend.
You’ve been on both sides of the tracks and you’ve made a great case as to why you prefer this man. So women who are overweight have to deal with overweight men who crave airbrushed supermodels.
And men who are short can’t get anyone to give ‘em a fair shake. It sounds to me like you and this guy are a pretty special match. He’s even thoughtful when it comes to sex and doesn’t push me at all. 😉 My point is that he’s just delightful — why wouldn’t I choose him over some schmo with a fat bank account but a slim personality? What a wonderful question and a wonderful sentiment for the new year. Insecure that he’s not a good provider – and insecure that a quality woman like you might not be open to dating him.