Pakistan dating and marriage
The reason will probably be as simple as, ‘well that has been the tea brand in the house for years’!When you marry him, you will bid farewell to the thought of drinking your favourite tea forever because when she dies, your husband will tell you that the tea brand she brought reminds him of her and so will be the only one brought into the house despite her not being there anymore! Your in-laws will want air-conditioners, refrigerators, kitchen utensils, cars, motorbikes and possibly even your nightie. She will not forgive you for the smallest of mistakes and enjoys watching you squirm in your chair, embarrassed. Her precise duties can vary from lovingly criticising you in front of your husband, taunting you with scathing remarks while your husband is not around and haunting you in the middle of the night, even in the privacy of your own bedroom!Don’t expect him to wake up in the middle of the night and change diapers — that is a lowly job meant only for wives to do. You will be expected to act in a proper and dignified manner at all times.
As a mother-in-law in Pakistan, she also holds the divine right of telling you exactly what she thinks of your relationship with your husband (her son first) and will offer all kinds of unsolicited advice, whether you want it or not. Of course, you must never let him feel like you are unhappy because then he will get hurt and being blinded by the pain of the ‘unfair pressure’ you put on him, will be left with no choice but to divorce you – possibly via a text saying, And tadaa, you’re divorced. To marry this highly eligible bachelor you must impress him. Apparently they never had any of those things before his highness met you. You, dear ladies, will be his property and he will not ‘allow’ you to hang out with male friends (only immodest girls do that).
It is just part and parcel of the legacy of being a Pakistani mother-in-law. No, not with your good looks, charm or personality, this pauper… But don’t take this lightly at all, there can, and have been, huge fights over dowry; sometimes, in a rage of greed they burn you or even kill you for not bringing that last toothpick left in your house! You will have to live with over a dozen other people in a small, cramped house. Not only do you live with his parents, you share space with his three other brothers and their families. Do not pester him into letting you go for a movie with your friends because this may result in him calling you all sorts of names, from dogs and cats to mothers and fathers – or, he will go crying to his mother, who will sympathise with all her heart and this little tête-à-tête will result in him texting you, 6.