So I prepared myself with some liquid courage and dropped in for a drink at the bar where he worked (per his invitation, of course). I only felt mildly awkward – that giddy kind of awkward I think you’re supposed to feel when you care about connecting with someone new.It turned out wonderfully, exceeding my expectations. We shared a very fun make out session – all hands and tongue – on a picturesque New York City street. We didn’t sleep together, but we were intimate, and we both enjoyed it.It began as a fun flitting in my chest, smile and daydream-inducing, goofily saccharine the way most beginnings of good things are. A combination of polite questions, witty banter, and explicit flirtation (enhanced with images) kept us both delightfully entertained and engaged.After a couple weeks of messaging, we mutually expressed interest to meet in person. I had never met anyone online before, or even been on so much as a blind date.I will have to talk about how I originally went on a bad date with one of them and knew I needed to set the two of them up. This will lead to me actually having kids.[‘What I’ve Learned to Deserve’ by Maria Shriver]– They’ll message me to set the date and show up, and see me and decide not to come in.-They won’t look anything like their picture and it will show on my face.-They will know all my friends, we’ll date and breakup and I’ll have to see them again.-They will know all my friends and know a lot of things about me.
And that evening when I got home, we exchanged messages of excitement and desire to see each other again as soon as possible. When I left his house that night, at my own insistence, he told me how he couldn’t wait to see me again, to take me out for dinner to his favorite restaurant, and to go on more dates with me after that. Here was a man who I shared a strong chemistry with, found to be incredibly attractive, impressed me with his professional work and personal aspirations, kept me laughing and interested, exhibited a real openness and sincere interest in me, and was thus far kind, attentive, and intelligent.The next evening we went to a bar in our shared neighborhood where we asked each other about work and family and hometowns and hobbies, and he kissed me with full soft lips on my mouth and neck. The next day I left New York to return home for the holidays.