Which in turn keeps the guy from asking out any other girl for fear that by doing so his simple invitation to get ice cream will be misinterpreted as a marriage proposal. Now this is the phase where the dating game becomes broken, because it is so easily misunderstood…or forgotten altogether.
Its a vicious cycle that can be easily avoided by understanding the 5 Stages of Dating. Dating is the stage where you review your list of “potentials” that you made from the hangout phase and you go with one person off that list to breakfast in the morning and then perhaps, you accompany a different “potential” out to dinner the next night.
Dating is the phase where you pair off and get to know someone better one-on-one.
When you’re dating your commitment to a person lasts for the duration of the date, and as soon as you’ve both gone your separate ways at the doorstep, that commitment is void until plans for a future date have been made.
There is no reason to define the relationship in the beginning of the dating phase.
There technically isn’t a relationship to define at this point. There is also no need to be offended if you see your morning date on a date with someone else later that night.
Some may call that being a “player”, a term that has such a negative connotation to it; defining someone as callous and insensitive to the feelings of others, and purely in the dating game for their own selfish purposes.
The girl is supposed to remain calm and unassuming when asked, but the girl is so rarely asked that she automatically jumps to the conclusion that the guy must REALLY be interested. In this stage you may not have any real ties to anyone (except for maybe your “wing-man”) and so you look to see if there is anyone who seems to have that certain charisma you’ve been looking for that you can add to your list of “potentials”.Erin added: 'Our dating practices are so different than the dating practices of mainstream.The dating game within the Mormon culture can seem a bit broken at times.And there is no reason to feel guilty if your morning date sees you out with someone else at dinner either.
The ultimate goal is to find someone to call our own, right?While in the dating stage being a “player” in the game is exactly what you want to be!
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