Introverts dating introverts

04-May-2015 03:25

Besides, trying to be who you aren’t in order to attract a mate can backfire in many ways.

First of all, there’s a matter of truth in advertising.

My husband still brings up the very sexy top I wore to the party where he finally asked me out.

In social situations, I felt dumpy, clumsy, and dull next to her.

About 400 years later, when through the modern miracle of the Internet I reconnected with people from high school, I was dumbfounded to learn that I hadn’t been nearly as invisible as I’d thought.

Boys were irresistibly drawn to her, and it seemed to me that she could get the adoring attention of anyone she wanted.

At parties, she was the center of attention, the one laughing the loudest and flirting the hardest, and enrapturing everyone she met.

People noticed me; boys noticed me; even one of my secret crushes noticed me and admitted that he’d had a little crush on me too.(Too bad neither of us said anything at the time, but that’s high school.) This realization forced me to recast my whole high school experience and, to an extent, my own self-image in a different light. Here’s the point: Sometimes we imagine that to get attention, we have to compete with extroverts’ glitter and sparkle, and that can be discouraging. Remember how your mom used to tell you that if you just be yourself, the right person will come along?

Now, I can vend just on the weekends because I have loyal customers who keep coming back for my authentic soft tamales.… continue reading »

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