But then someone makes you a friendly sign behind a window, or one notices that a flower that was in bud only yesterday has suddenly blossomed, or a letter slips from a drawer… Jealousy is simply and clearly the fear that you do not have value. But I’ll tell you a trick that’s sometimes a big help.Jealousy scans for evidence to prove the point – that others will be preferred and rewarded more than you. If you cannot love yourself, you will not believe that you are loved. Take your eyes off others and turn the scanner within. When you start lookin’ around for something good to take the place of the bad, as a general rule you can find it.There are lots of ways to show your girl that you love and care about them.Roses on Valentine’s Day counts for a loving gesture but you really do not have to wait for Valentine’s Day to make her feel loved.Find the seeds of your jealousy, clear the old voices and experiences. Put all the energy into building your personal and emotional security.
It’s so curious: one can resist tears and ‘behave’ very well in the hardest hours of grief. Now and then for no good reason a man can figure out, life will just haul off and knock him flat, slam him agin’ the ground so hard it seems like all his insides is busted. A lot of it’s mighty fine, and you can’t afford to waste the good part frettin’ about the bad. Sure, I know – sayin’ it’s one thing and feelin’ it’s another.
Then you will be the one others envy, and you can remember the pain and reach out to them.
You have probably watched romantic movies such as The Notebook, Titanic and Beauty and the Beast and wondered if you could be as romantic as the men in those movies.
The idea of a soulmate is a romantic but essentially flawed concept. Knowledge of our differences can make the commitment twice as sweet, if we can respect the differences that will emerge along the way.
An intimate relationship is not destined, it is constructed over time.
You could cook her a meal, you could take advantage of the power of touch by holding her hands or you could even play with her hair as you watch a movie.