Fourteen year olds dating
Connolly points to the reality that few kids actually rush onto the dating scene.
Instead, they spend time in casual group contexts where boys and girls are together.
Putting limits on what kids can do gives them time to understand in a more relaxed and informal setting, while giving them the confidence and skills they will need to move away from group settings.
Perhaps even more alarmingly, it also found significant levels of abuse in these relationships.
Groups can offer a safe, protective way for kids to learn.
But at the same time, parents need to discuss not going too far too fast.
With this knowledge of the dating scene, why would anyone allow their tween to start dating?
"Teenagers often wonder two things: how to date and what a healthy relationship is," says Jennifer Connolly, Ph D, Director of the La Marsh Centre for Research on Violence and Conflict Resolution at York University.
There is interest, but they are not coupled up, which is normal.