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Recently, I heard about a woman who had complained bitterly of being treated “very badly” by men.
Immediately-- perhaps because I had been reading a thriller-- my mind conjured up images of her having been thrown out of a moving vehicle, such as a car or a train. She was referring merely to the fact that her last two boyfriends had broken up with her. The entire process of dating is marked by interruption and rejection.
I think (others might disagree) that ethical issues always come down to being kind or unkind—behaving in ways that are likely to injure others or likely to avoid such injury.
Sexual behavior is not inherently good or evil except that it may hurt someone or not.
Similarly, dating behavior in general should be measured by that standard.
The rules of proper dating reflect that underlying concern.
That is everyone’s experience at one time or another.
But the story made me stop and think about just what constituted “proper treatment” throughout dating.
Certainly, that includes simultaneously dating others. Most couples today expect that if they are sleeping with each other, neither of them will be sleeping with someone else.
Even early in the relationship such a discovery will be experienced as a deceit and, later on, as a betrayal. Some people think it is not proper to date someone who previously dated a close friend, but those considerations largely relate to the responsibilities of friendship, rather than dating.
On the other hand, anyone who reads these capsule descriptions might reasonably suspect that the author may be exaggerating personal income (somewhat) or height (an inch or two.) Photographs that are three or four years old are intended to deceive but are forgivable usually because they are not likely to be hurtful.
(Soon enough the truth comes out.) Interests, such as sky-diving, should also be taken with a grain of salt.
Because times change, the specific expectations young men and women have when they date and enter, perhaps, into a more formal courtship are not the same now as they were in the past and as they are, still, in other areas of the world.These are some of the current, usually unspoken, rules. Right from the beginning of a relationship, both men and women are expected to be truthful (more or less.) It is definitely wrong on a dating site bio to lie about marital status, for instance.