Dating commitment phobic man
Do you ever wonder why your relationships start off so promising, yet don't last? Here's the thing, way back I dated several guys who pursued me relentlessly, sending flowers, wining and dining me and showing me off to their friends. If you want marriage and children and/or a commitment and you are dating or living with a CP, I suggest you question yourself as to why you would find it acceptable behaviour and continue on in a relationship with someone who is not showing you the respect, and love you SO deserve? CPs dislike being busted and become self- righteous, defiant and reactive when their selfish behaviour is flagged up.
Set aside presumptions and preconceived ideas about men and commitment. Many fantasise about what they want the relationship to be and live in 'constant hope' rather than getting real about what's in front of them. They will NEVER meet your needs and many try to fix or heal a CP. Never allow a CP to point the finger of blame at you and cause you havoc, confusion, pain and heartache. Some suggestions were: I chase him, I play cool, I sit him down and ask him directly. "I couldn't figure out why this kept happening to me. Several laughed yet looked incredibly uncomfortable and changed the subject when mutual friends would say, "When are you two getting hitched? After starting a journey of self-discovery, it became SO clear: a) I had to stop doubting myself and assuming I had done something wrong or I was not good enough, and b) I had to look within and discover why I kept attracting CPs. They minimise, alter or deny the reality and make excuses for the CP. And women have been asking the same question ever since.
A recent study chronicled in USA Today ran with the headline, “Not so afraid to commit after all.” The lead paragraph read, “Men are more likely than women to prefer marriage over lifelong singlehood and in many ways are as interested in serious family relationships as women, according to a new study.” In the survey—which included 12,000 men and women ages 15-44—respondents were asked, “It is better to get married than go through life single?Wise women know that men have lots of feelings—and allow lots of space to process them and lots of grace in figuring out how to verbalize them.