Dating and giving space
So to answer your question, I don’t think this guy is a screwball at all.
Like most guys, he’s probably just figuring his situation out and simultaneously figuring out if a relationship with you is really what he’s looking for.
The majority of these issues could be resolved by just doing what you did – backing off, giving the guy some space and letting him come to you and put in the effort.
Too often I see girls smothering or nagging a guy when he doesn’t do what they want him to.
The reason I started caring less is because he was not being that considerate about our plans (i.e. When I care less, he tries harder and puts in more effort which causes me to end up liking him more again.
That always results in the guy becoming more withdrawn.
After all, why would he want to commit himself more to a girl who’s nagging him already, right at the beginning of a relationship!
Maybe my situation is unusual, but in general , after several dates, is it okay for a girl ask a guy to hang out sometimes?
Or, should she keep letting the guy initiate plans until they are actually in a relationship? The situation that you’re describing actually illustrates something that I’ve talked about before.
I think he’s a normal guy and I think you are handling the situation well.