Dating after abusive marriage
For some reason, when it concerns matters of the heart, we can often be swayed to wander further outside of God’s boundaries than we may on other matters. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Therefore go out from their midst, and be separate from them,’ says the Lord, and touch no unclean thing; then I will welcome you, and I will be a father to you, and you shall be sons and daughters to me, says the Lord Almighty.’For those of you who are dating, or are tempted to date a nonbeliever, I’d like to challenge you to reconsider.
To help you in this mission I have provided links below to several thought-provoking articles and videos.
Please prayerfully read and consider what God is saying to your heart —especially in light of the verses in 2 Corinthians -18.
The following are links that will take you to these specific articles:• DATING NON-CHRISTIANS: Forbidden Fruits Appeal – Part 1 • DATING NON-CHRISTIANS: Forbidden Fruits Appeal – Part 2And then below you will find another article that I encourage you to read.
Because of Sarah’s boldness to make this “promise” happen in only the way SHE thought it could, there have been negative repercussions for many generations, to this day.
It’s a Q&A video on the subject of “Dating a Non-Christian.” You may find this very insightful:“Why would you want to date someone where it could lead to marriage —the closest human relationship you could ever have, when Jesus, who is closest to you personally, is someone they don’t share with you? God is part of your identity —it is who you are.”“When you date someone who’s not a follower of Jesus, one of two things happens.
The first one is —you put God at the center and that person you’re dating is on the outskirts. OR you put the person at the center of your relationship and God is on the outskirts. And when you have decisions to make, it causes you to drift apart from God.
However, that doesn’t mean that you should be “yoked” with him or her in the sacred relationship of marriage. She decided the baby, that God promised to Abraham and to her, wasn’t going to come unless she made it happen.And please don’t pull a “Sarah” where you take matters in your hands because of your doubts. So she manipulated her husband to sleep with her maid servant so a baby was born.Here is the article where Steve Shirley gives his biblically-based answer to the question:• CAN I DATE A NON-CHRISTIAN?And then here’s something you may want to view on this issue, talked about by Pastor Tim Keller.
Since the beginning of humankind, we have been experiencing the pull towards that, which is “forbidden.” God says, “no” to some things, and just like Eve in the Garden of Eden, we allow ourselves to entertain the question, “Did God actually say…” This is no less true as it pertains to Christians dating non-Christians —the “forbidden fruit.”It can be tempting to go out with someone we are attracted to and think, “this one time won’t hurt.” But then the temptation arises to go out on another occasion, and then another.
Each time there seems to be some good reason why we think it would be okay. God is very serious in what He tells us concerning our “affections.” We are told in 2 Corinthians -18: Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. Or what portion does a believer share with an unbeliever? I will make my dwelling among them and walk among them, and I will be their God, and they shall be my people.