Dating a quadriplegic girl
They will just have to do them differently.” Below we share Bert’s thoughts on a topic that everyone thinks about from time to time – the ups and downs of dating with a disability. However, once people see that you’re in a wheelchair, you have to address the point and keep going, so they understand that you’re not just someone in a wheelchair. ” And the next step is that I start talking to them.
Dating 101 for People Who Are Newly Injured – Spinal Cord Injury Q: Will people still want to date me? Then they get their minds off the wheelchair and find out that I’m really a person.
At a restaurant, do you want to sit in a booth and transfer or sit at a table and stay in your chair. When we go on vacation,walks on the beach and hikes into the mountains are out of the question.
Instead, we go on cruises, hang by the pool, scuba dive and snow ski together.
Q: When is it appropriate to talk about your disability with your date?
A: I usually talk on the 1 date about things I can or can’t do, so it’s not a white elephant in the room. Depending on your date and your age, the sex talk comes up pretty early too, usually by the 2 date.
Bert says, “I hope to convince patients in wheelchairs that they can still do all the things they want to do and more. Sure you’re rolling now instead of walking, but your personality is what people date – not your legs. For every five that won’t date you, there’s 50 others that will. ” And they immediately think, “Hey, he can talk, too!
After a successful wheelchair racing career where Bert won a gold medal in the Paralympics, he went on to create Uro Med, Inc., a urological supply company that he hoped would make a difference to people with disabilities. “Having Joy and our twins, William and Emma, makes me the luckiest guy in the world,” he says.
“I truly have an amazing life.” Today, Bert devotes considerable time as a motivational speaker for youth with disabilities, rehabilitation programs, medical education seminars and other community events.
That way your date can decide if that’s a factor or not. You need to decide whether or not it’s appropriate, depending on your age and relationship level.
Editor’s Note: When Bert was only 20 years old and a college intramural sportsman, he was hit by a drunk driver. He broke his neck at C6 and C7, and learned he would have to face life as a quadriplegic.
Bert spent the next six months in rehab, convinced his life was over.