Dating a divorced father with kids
(Life Wire) -- After his 10-year marriage ended in 2004, New Yorker Phil Lee, 42, found himself tagged with the modern-day scarlet letter: "D" -- divorced.
He wondered how that (not to mention his three children, ages 19, 11 and 9) would affect his future dating life.
The fitness-business owner says it hasn't been much of a hindrance. "At my age, a lot of the women I meet have children themselves, so it's generally a back-and-forth over each other's children," says Lee.
• More personal information, such as why the marriage failed and the nature of your relationship with your ex, should be saved for a later date when the two of you are more comfortable with each other.
"This decreases the chances of overwhelming your partner," she says.
• Be neutral when speaking about your past partner.
As Hartman puts it, "Your date wants to know about you, not your former marriage." • Don't go into too much detail.
Focus on what you learned and how it made you a better person.
If you criticize your ex, you risk sounding petty and emotionally involved.