Dating herpes hpv married people site
Can you give me some guidance to help them, specifically her…there are so many facets from the original betrayal of not knowing in enough time to think clearly before the wedding, the actual breakouts being SO severe, they cover him from thighs to mid stomach including genitals, and the loss of physical intimacy is damaging her self esteem. This is probably one of the hardest Reader Questions I’ve ever had. This is one of the reasons God wants us to wait for marriage to have sex!But if you can remember that you are on the same team, you will be so much further ahead.There is medication to suppress the virus, which helps. If my husband’s herpes isn’t symptomatic and there are no outbreaks, is sex safe?But the problem is that you can contract the virus even if you’re not symptomatic–though it’s not as common. I don’t want to answer those questions because I’m not a doctor, but things change really quickly, and they’re always developing new medicines, so keep asking.At one point they automatically did C-sections for women with the virus; now most deliver vaginally. Couples often find that while the outbreaks were bad initially, after a decade or two they really are almost unnoticeable. And in this woman’s case, it sounds like she has other health issues which would be severely compromised if she contracted the herpes virus from her husband. When you start feeling resentment, take that resentment and give it back to God.
So making love poses a risk to the non-infected spouse. Talk frankly about sexual options–what is safe to do? And even look for trials for new medications, because you never know! This ironically can be even harder to let go of than an affair that happened during marriage, because as time goes on, the reality of what you’re dealing with sets in.And when you do want children, there are added complications, because a woman with the virus risks passing it on to her kids. With an affair, it gets further and further into the background. And there’s a danger that you’ll start saying to yourself: It’s understandable.For those of you who don’t understand what the issue is, the herpes virus, HSV (and there are two kinds of the virus), doesn’t ever go away. Often you have no symptoms whatsoever, but every now and then you’ll have an outbreak with blisters, often accompanied by pain and fatigue in your muscles.The blisters may be just on your genitals or they may spread further.
Can I ask your advice on how to minister to a friend of mine and her husband? Just a week before their wedding she found out her husband has herpes – and apparently has severe outbreaks from them.
My friend has a health condition that could severely be impacted by contracting HSV.