Canadian dating and marriage
There have been lots of marriages that have worked without the couple living together beforehand." – David Payne, 46, Toronto“No, living together before you get married is a bad idea. Also, so many of my peers are jumping into cohabitation in their 20's, but this is the time of life where you should be exploring who you are, what it's like to be independent, how to pay your own bills and get by on your own, that sort of thing.” – Avery S., 25, Montreal"I don't think it is a good idea to live together before marriage for practical reasons.
For example, my condo is too small for a second person to move in.
You get to make sure you're truly compatible in all ways.
At this stage in my life, I don't want to just go on blind faith." – Steve G., 43, Toronto"Moving in with your spouse only once you've tied the knot is asking for disappointment and inviting unnecessary stress on what should be a time for two people to seal a permanent bond with each other.
And 'experimental' is how I view a plan to live together then maybe get married." – Penny, 32, Toronto"I wouldn't consider marriage without living together first.
Living together you get a chance to know a person's day-to-day routine, see the highs and lows, and discover things about them that you won't necessarily learn from merely dating.
I'm not willing to go through a major real estate transaction for an experimental living arrangement.
But, after living on my own and just recently moving in with my boyfriend, I would say that it is fine to move in together when the time is right and you truly know you want to spend the rest of your life with this person – so your plan is marriage." – Theresa Sedore, 24, Thunder Bay, Ont."When I was young, two people didn't live together without getting married first. But as I got older, I realized that a relationship between two people is loving and trustful whether you have a marriage certificate or not." – Patricia Cooper, 58, Nanaimo, B.
It seems irresponsible and almost naive for couples to expect that their vows will be strong enough to see them through the rough spots, especially if you have to experience them all at once.
Before living together, we're really only seeing two dimensions of our partner's personality – the third dimension might just prove to be more than one can handle." – Stephanie Bratt, 29, Mississauga, Ont. It gives two people a chance to judge their compatibility before making a further commitment." – Chris N., 35, Toronto"I come from a deeply religious Roman Catholic upbringing, and at one point in my life, I would have said no, two people should not live together before marriage because it takes away from the holy sacrament of marriage.
There are many milestones in a relationship that get your heart pumping. The inaugural "I love you." Exchanging apartment keys. But if marriage is the plan, should a couple co-habitate beforehand?
Whether it's a prelude to marriage, replaces an exchange of vows, or happens only after the big day, eventually two people in love will want to share a home.