12 new rules for dating
When you're easy to get or you don't allow a pursuit at all, there's very little thrill for the would-be pursuer. But it bothers me because sometimes I just can't be bothered with it, but mostly because it creates an artificial scarcity, which begs the question: How can you build something real with someone if it's based on something fake?Skimming the table of contents alone and seeing so many "don'ts," it's easy to wonder, The fact is, not really.The Rules require you to be a passive participant in the dating game, which, for someone like me who never likes to sit and wait for things to magically happen, is pretty hard to do.If you're older than 31, you should wait at least three hours!
The Rules also seem a bit conniving and a way of forcing a relationship as opposed to letting one just bloom.But although The Rules seem unnatural, they're based on a somewhat natural principle: things that are scarce have more value -- the scarcity principle.This story might be one to add to the realm of urban legend: a friend of a friend was a little down on her luck with love and money.In an effort to troubleshoot the easiest issue first, my friend suggested, "Maybe you can get a job as a nanny," to which Debbie Downer responded, "I don't want to It's taken me a while to face the fact that there are rules of engagement one must follow to properly attract and trap -- I mean keep -- a partner.
For a long time, I acknowledged them but met them with resistance.
I'd hear the usual, "Don't kiss on the first date," "Wait at least two days to return his call," "Don't give it up too easily." When I was younger, I would adhere to some of these guidelines, but always netted out feeling, "It's all too much. I want to be honest about how I feel and let a relationship unfold naturally." So, years later, when I finally read The book was immediately hard to take seriously because the writing and structure was a little elementary and repetitive (but I guess dating advice has to be drilled into the receiver's head).